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Day Eighteen – Betrayal

Many things were discussed in the daily video. We learned about the breath and how it’s connected to our neurological system. Brice discussed pranayama breathing and the OM meditation. She reminded us that our past experiences shape our future reality by connecting the emotion related to the past experience with present experience. We automatically react to the present situation based on the emotion felt in the past. This is our subconscious reacting to protect us from something that isn’t real. Our thoughts are not real.

We react to situations based on a past events that don’t exist. If we can learn to catch these reactions before they happen, we can “live in the moment”, so to speak.

Over the last few days, we addressed a few intense topics. Today we looked at one of those situations. Betrayal.

We’ve all probably been betrayed at one time or another. This is another tough topic. It’s my opinion that betrayal is an emotional form of abuse. Some may think this an extreme view, but if the betrayal cause a deep enough wound, it can be traumatizing. And it can take years to get over. And that could only happen if healing took place. Some people never get past the trauma of betrayal. I went through such traumatic betrayal a couple years ago. Betrayal Trauma is very real.

I’ve had five years to work through such trauma. Forgiveness isn’t easy but it’s necessary. Not for the betrayer, but for those who were betrayed. When we forgive others, we open up our heart to a form of love that isn’t limited by betrayal, anger or any other negative emotion. Forgiveness offers us peace and new beginnings. It allows us to cut the ties that anchored us in our grief. And allows us to experience joy again.

Forgiveness doesn’t often come easy. We must go through a period of mourning, sit with our pain, and process the betrayal before we can let go. But let go we must. So we can live again. It is my experience that forgiveness allows our hearts to expand, so we can love more deeply. So we can see the world through a new set of eyes and enjoy the world for what it could be.

Again, today we were given the gift of learning and healing through this Shadow Work Challenge. I am thankful for those who share this journey with me. And am loving the healing I see.